For any of you that don’t know me, my name is Stacia and I am a wife as well as a mom to three kiddos. My kids ages are 3, 1 1/2, and 3 months. Yes, I do know where babies come from. Some of you may read the title and think a couple different things. Maybe you are a stay at home mom with 1,2, 5 kids and you are completely overwhelmed. You are thinking that there is no way to have any form of goal other than simply surviving the day. Or maybe you are a working mom, who is trying to juggle working, raising a family, running a household etc. You probably have too many things going on to even imagine the word “goals.” By no means am I an expert on motherhood, being a wife, cleaning, cooking (I’m actually quite horrible in this department) but I want to share some of the strategies I have learned to use in my hectic life in hopes that it will help out another busy mom.
First thing I want to point out in this post is that when it comes to my daily goals, I set the bar really low. If it was up to me, I would accomplish 20 tasks with time to spare. But one thing I have found is if I try to do too much, I get easily overwhelmed. Then on top of that, when I don’t finish all of my desired tasks, I feel like I have failed. I feel as if my day was a complete waste, even when I was able to complete a couple of those tasks. For example, on a normal day, my goals may simply be, sweep the floors. Wait, that’s it? Yeah, that’s it. It is something I know that I can get done at some point in the course of my day. I try to take some time at the beginning of the week and designate one “bigger” task per day. Sweeping floors, cleaning the bathroom, wiping down/ cleaning out kitchen appliances, etc. So that’s my first goal, one “bigger” task. If you can rotate through them and do one at a time, you can usually avoid having to do all of them at once!
So then come the everyday tasks. The general clean up, laundry, food prep, etc. I can’t say I have ever met anyone who this part of their wife/motherly duties just has it together. These are the things that keep coming up no matter how many times we do them, right?! My best piece of advice with this is to try and devise a plan. Try to plan out your meals at the beginning of the week and pick meals that are appropriate for your schedule. Going to be home all evening one night? Maybe choose that night to do a family favorite that takes a little more time. Have another night when you will be rushing out the door to endless activities? Make that a crock pot meal night. My husband and I are huge “pinners.” Thank you Jesus for Pinterest! And don’t just use Pinterest, get organized there too! Make your boards tailored to what you need. Make one with just crock pot meals. Make another with 5 ingredient or less meals. You are the creator of your boards so do what is best for you! But plan it out, write it out, and take some of the stress out of your already stressful schedule! (Thankfully my husband loves to cook, so that helps!)As far as laundry goes, I try to throw a load in in the morning and just have it done, folded, and put away before bed. If I do it one load at a time, it takes away from the heaping pile and eases my laundry hating mind! Then there is the general pick up. What do I do? I try to wait until later in the evening to even tackle it. My kids make a mess all day and if I tried to continually clean it up, I wouldn’t be a very happy momma. So I do what I can, when I can, and if I can’t get to a certain task, I move on. Couldn’t do laundry? It will be there tomorrow. Didn’t have time for dinner? We have pizza! In all of these areas I keep my initial motto. I set the bar low so that when I accomplish what I had on my to do list, I feel productive!! (I also usually feel more apt to do things when I feel productive. Anyone else?!)
One of the things I find most helpful is having a planner. I mean I don’t just have a small planner, I legit have a binder with a whole page per day. Excessive? Probably so, but it helps me so much! I can plan out each day with the important details as well as some smaller ones that I am more likely to forget (like taking the trash out.) I also am a big believer in lists! My husband and I use the app Wunderlist together so we can both work off the same lists. You can share lists, make notes in the lists for the other person- it is great! We have found having some sort of system in place, keeps us from losing our minds. Trying to stay organized helps me. I have found if I can be organized in the small things, it is easier to be organized in the big things. You may say, “well I’m too busy to be organized,” or “I’m not the organized type.” I challenge you to just give it a shot. Nothing over the top. Just start by buying a planner or downloading one off line. I will bet you fall in love with it in no time! We are very go with the flow people. We don’t stick to the most detailed schedule but trying to bring organization in the midst of that has helped my state of mind drastically!
Last but not least, my favorite goal of the day is trying to be the best wife and mom I can be! One of the best things I can do for my kids is love and respect their dad. Making time for my kids trumps all other goals I may have had for the day. We as moms get one shot at this so we might as well try and do the best we can right?! Sometimes we get so caught up in what other wives and moms are doing, that we don’t see the value in what we do everyday. I struggle with this horribly. I constantly feel like I’m not doing enough. (Don’t we all?) But what I am quickly realizing is that no one does it all. Stuff may seem good on the outside but on the inside we are all doing whatever we can to survive!
Look at it this way. If we aren’t setting goals for our day, are we realizing how much we do accomplish everyday? So maybe we didn’t clean the whole house or cook a four course meal, but we cleaned the kitchen, did the laundry and had a lot of fun with the kids. Whatever you can accomplish, kill it! You got this momma and you are doing a great job!